Taming the Mother Bear in Me

Any mother bears out there?  I can be one at times.  

There have been times (just a few;), when the ole' mother bear wants to get the best of me.  After all, how could someone disrespect someone I love and care for?   We live in a fallen world with fallen people, and it's bound to happen at some point in time.

What is your response when your husband, child or even pet is being attacked with lies, disrespect and/or just downright meanness?  Sometimes I can feel the 6 inch bear claws growing from my fingers and the deep frightening growl about to erupt from my throat.  There are times that I have allowed this to happen (well, maybe not in such a drastic way), and there are times I have dealt with it calmly.

A part of why I love to blog is to admit my personal mistakes and share with you what God has taught me, sometimes over and over again!  There are times when I have to swallow my pride!  And today is one of them. You see, I failed recently, and did not put on a meek and quite spirit.

I will not go into detail, but my response was not the best and I allowed this little incident to get to me.  Now, let me assure you, there are times when we do need to stand up and defend our children.  Jesus did.  When his disciples belittled the children in Matthew, Jesus defended the children and told the disciples, 

"Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."  Matthew 19:14

This response was direct and to the point.  Obviously there was not a hint of disrespect or condescending tone.  He said it like it is, plain and simple.  There will be a time when we need to respond and what a perfect example in Jesus we have.

He teaches us to respond with a meek and quiet spirit.  What is meek?  Does it mean to get trampled on and allow our loved ones to suffer, while we just turn our heads?  Hardly!  Although there is a time and a place for remaining silent, we do need to speak up with a meek and quiet spirit.

To be meek is to be humble and gentle.  To not let circumstances ruffle our feathers.  To be in control of our emotions.  That is how we should respond if need be.

Sometimes this just isn't possible right away.  We are sinful creatures and that old anger pot starts to boiling.  We must never, never respond until we can simmer that pot.  Usually, bad things happen when we respond with raised blood pressure.  So, there are times when we must walk away.  That's tough to do, especially when we have a really good comeback line and are about to let a little roar escape our lips!

Think of Jesus' responses, direct and to the point.  Remember, we are to be a light here on earth.  Although we do need to stand up and defend any wrongdoings done to our loved ones at times, we can do so without a swipe of the bear claw.  

Let's keep the mama bears in us hibernating forever, shall we?

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5 comments:

  1. WOW I needed that! My kids are in their 20s and 30s; but I am still fiercely protective. Especially since two of my kids are special needs. I am very protective since they can't really protect themselves. I have handled things so very badly at times I'm embarrassed. It is best to try and let it go. Though doing that has also made me fiercely private.

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  2. This is interesting because I was just listening to Joyce Meyers and that was the subject. I too can have the Mama bear claws come out. In fact recently I dealt with an issue with my daughter at her job. She called me from work distraught, she was being bullied by adult co workers. This Mama Bear donned her super hero cape and jumped into the Mama Bear mobile and flew to the rescue. I had visions of bursting in claws raised defending my cub when, I felt God. I calmed down, slowed down and entered the establishment with my claws retracted. Had I gone in ripping and roaring I would not only have made the situation worse, I would have set a bad example for my daughter. Dealing with the situation in a meek(not weak) manner, I taught her how she could stand up for herself firmly without showing bad behavior. It did also show the other workers, their behavior would not be tolerated, without my having to stoop to their level. It has taken some time for me to get to that point, where I actually listen to God telling me to calm down...I too have had my foot stomping, embarrassing moments. I could do a show on What NOT to do! But I have learned from those moments and moved on.

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  3. I'm telling you I can be a MAJOR Mama Bear and it takes so much for me to let God handle the situation and give me not only the words to say but the tone in which to say them. Left to my own devices the results would indeed look like a bear had been there!

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  4. Susie, I am sure you are not alone! What is the good thing here is that when this happens, we can learn from it and do a better job next time of not allowing Satan to blind us. We can also extend grace to ourselves and the othr person afterward and thus grow in grace! May you be blessed today! Can't wait to see what you link up tomorrow! Perhaps this one and several others :)

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  5. It takes a lot of self-control and I am one to tell you that it does not come easy for me at all! But, when I respond as Jesus would, I feel so much more at peace. I will pray for all of us "mama bears" in that we can put on that meek and quiet spirit!

    Thanks for sharing your hearts, ladies!

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