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Patriotic Homestead Week - Overcoming the Negative Perception of Women in the Military

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For those that follow me on Facebook, you might have seen that my daughter just left for Air Force basic training.

For those that have followed this blog for awhile, you might remember I wrote a post 
called, I am a Veteran.  In that post, I was trying to explain my way out of feeling embarrassed at times because as a female, it is sometimes looked down upon by some ultra-conservative groups.

Yes, several years ago, I used to be embarrassed around certain people because I was in the Air Force for eight years.  Why?  

Because as homeschoolers, we can sometimes get caught up in the legalities of religion.

Let me explain.

We used to be very conservative Christians(and still are to a point), but to some, we were not conservative enough.  We used to listen to Doug Phillips and his ministry, Vision Forum, as did a lot of other homeschoolers.  Talk about conservative!  Yes, they were.  They were what everyone thought the homeschool family should look like and boy, did they play their part.  The thought of ever letting their daughters go away to college was not in their vocabulary.  And women in the military?  No way!

So, when Doug Phillips started sharing his negative opinion on women in the military, I felt as if I would never measure up to his standards and everyone else who followed is teachings.  Something that I was proud of became something I was kind of ashamed of. I worked so hard, spent eight years of my life, became a better person and more mature and met my wonderful husband in the military.  I became a better person in Christ.

But, all of that was thrown away.  I kept it to myself for the most part. Pretty silly, I know.  I was so caught up in trying to be conservative enough and be like other Vision Forum families that I was trying to be someone that God didn't intend for me to be.

Now, don't get me wrong, I don't discredit everything that Vision Forum stood for.  They did make some good points on raising children, but after a few years, there was something about their leader that did not sit well with me.  I believe God had lifted the blinders from my eyes.  Although my husband and I did not discuss it too much, he would eventually become somewhat repulsed when he saw him.  And as some of you know, it was for good reason.  I would rather not share that reason, but feel free to do some research on the internet and I'm sure you will figure it out.

And so, even when he was still popular, we steered away from him and his ministry.  That is when I began to let God be my Counselor, my Potter.  And He had a lot of work to do!  Replacing lies with biblical truths, not some man-made opinion.  Not only was that freeing, but I wasn't so quick to think negatively about other families who didn't think exactly like you-know-who.  I was just as guilty with that self-righteousness junk! 

And then there is the military.  I used to tell others that I would never let my daughters join.  Because, you know, it was talked down upon and plus when my oldest daughter was still young, I just couldn't even imagine allowing her to go through basic training and beyond!

I have learned(most of the time) to never say never.

My daughter(19) told me last year that she wanted to join the Air Force just like her dad and I every since she was 12.  But, she never told me because she knew I'd say no.  She was right.  But, something has changed in me.  Although I put my foot down on active duty and choosing a highly deployed job, I was okay with her serving in the military, I was actually pleased that she wanted to join and serve our country.  Who would have thought?  
But, what would my husband say about all of this?

Surprisingly enough, he told me he would like all of our children to serve this country in some way or another.  Funny how God changes us and makes us uniquely His!

So now, I will gladly stand with my father and husband when veterans are being recognized.

I will gladly share my experiences that helped shape me into who I am.

And I will gladly say to the naysayers, "God made us all
uniquely His.  Isn't that awesome?"

I will gladly see my daughter graduate from basic training in less than two months!

And I will gladly remember that God has made us all differently, with different abilities, talents, gifts, non-biblical convictions, etc.  It's fascinating to see how He is molding others differently than me.  Yet, we have Christ as our common ground.

And that is enough.

P.S. I must say that I do not agree with women in combat.  But, that's another story!


  1. Thank you for your service! I agree about Vision Forum. Congratulations to your daughter on her decision & I hope your basic training time is positive & a growing experience. And, I too disagree about women in active combat! Have a great week!

    1. Hello Donna! Thank you for your encouragement!

  2. Excellent post Susie! I have a niece who joined the military and it helped her "get it together". Our family is proud of her and thankful that she made that choice.
    I want to thank you for making me aware of the Doug Phillips deal. I had absolutely no idea. I too had gotten caught up in "the vision" thing but could not find peace or joy in it and didn't know why. Now I guess I'll also be turning to the Father for a "re-make", lol. Thanks again and I'm enjoying your blog posts! :)

    1. Hello Whim-Z B! It was pretty enlightening to be free of all of those unnecessary burdens I put on myself! May the Lord guide you in that "re-make" as well:)


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